Velez, Nicholas Joseph "Jojo", age 21, formerly of Cape Coral, FL passed away November 14th, 2023. Jojo was a son, brother, cousin, and friend . He is survived by his parents Jose Velez and Shelia Harmon, his older sister Sabrina Mingione, older brothers Steve Harmon, Freddie Velez, and Jose Velez. Along with his longest friend, his twin sister Janessa Velez. Jojo worked with his brother, Steve, as a carpenter and in construction. Jojo was the best uncle in the world and was commonly known as the "fun uncle". There was never a time where he wasn't being "one of the kids" when he was around them. Jojo had dreams bigger than the moon and often shared to his family about them. He wanted to do so many things because he didn't just want to be one thing. Jojo always helped his family no matter what his relationship was with them at the time. He valued family and loved his mother dearly. Jojo will forever be missed because he impacted everyone's life, he was in whether we wanted him to or not. He's in a better place where we know he's not in pain. We will love him forever and miss him for a lifetime. Love and Loss When we are young we never think about death or what it means when someone dies. We only think of the now and the future we want for ourselves. As we age, most of us will lose more than we gain, love more than we are loved, and experience pain more than we do joy. Yet, we never stop loving, living, and enjoying our lives that we set out for ourselves. Even if it's not a fairytale or a page out of a book or a movie that ends with a happy ending. Instead, what we feel is real and genuine. So, when we lose someone so special to us that we have loved for a lifetime, we feel a loss in our hearts because we've never been taught how to grieve when someone dies. It's not something that can be taught. It's something that can only be felt when it impacts you personally. How you grieve is your own personal experience, and no one can tell you how to feel or what to do or even how to act. You will question yourself, feel anger, pain, resentment, and sadness. But eventually you will start to feel hope and with hope comes laughter about the old times and memories that don't seem to fade. One day you will wake up and not feel sadness or the urge to cry anymore and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you have forgotten them, it just means that you have learned how to love after loss. You can finally go day by day and learn how to live again and remember your loved one is in a better place, and you will join them one day, just not today.